G.O.S.S.I.P. Sister » My Life as a Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog God Orders Steps, Sit In Patience Sister Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:00:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 en hourly 1 My Life As A Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/08/06/my-life-as-a-wife-12/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/08/06/my-life-as-a-wife-12/#comments Fri, 06 Aug 2010 08:00:21 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=1274 The past couple of months have been VERY busy for Rob and I. We don’t have as much time for each other as we would like while we continue to pursue our dreams. We support one another as we both follow our own personal goals but it is a balancing act, especially for a wife. I don’t ever want anything to become more important or take up more of my time than Rob; however I still have goals I want to complete. Dilemma huh?

Well as I continue on this journey I am now trying to find a balancing act to make my husband feel like the king he is, while continuing to be the independent business woman he fell in love with. Marriage doesn’t come with a rule book, you aren’t born with the do’s and don’t’s of it. Its all trial and error. I am enjoying being on this journey. It makes me think outside of the box and be creative with my time. Continue following me…I love feedback so feel free to share. Check out Gossiper’s Single & The City blog. Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/08/06/my-life-as-a-wife-12/feed/ 0 My Life As A Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/07/02/my-life-as-a-wife-11/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/07/02/my-life-as-a-wife-11/#comments Fri, 02 Jul 2010 13:00:34 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=1254 So I am still on this journey trying to become a better person and wife. Life is all about change and learning and so far I am enjoying learning more about my role and changing for the better. I recently celebrated my one year wedding anniversary and it felt great. Everyone told us how hard the first year would be but to the contrary I didn’t find it that “hard” at all. Anytime two people from different back grounds and life styles join together to live as one, there will be some challenges to overcome but I never found them hard. Just made us think outside of the box a bit J. I am loving this journey I am on and excited to see where all its going to take me. Continue this journey with me and don’t forget to check out Gossiper’s Single & the City blog. Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/07/02/my-life-as-a-wife-11/feed/ 2 My Life As A Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/06/04/my-life-as-a-wife-10/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/06/04/my-life-as-a-wife-10/#comments Fri, 04 Jun 2010 05:30:17 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=1194 WOW I can’t believe it has been a year already!! Sunday, 6/6/10 will mark one year J Over the past 12 months we have continued to grow, change, and compromise for the good of our relationship. You motivate me to be a better person overall and I hope I do the same. In this edition all I have to say is Happy Anniversary Sweetheart – I look forward to spending MANY more with you…love you much! Happy Anniversary to all couples celebrating in June!

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/06/04/my-life-as-a-wife-10/feed/ 0 MY LIFE AS A WIFE http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/05/07/my-life-as-a-wife-9/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/05/07/my-life-as-a-wife-9/#comments Fri, 07 May 2010 16:30:43 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=1158 Rob and I have been married for 11 months!!! It is so weird to think that next month will make one whole year…wow time has flown. Well in this edition I will keep it short and sweet. As I continue my journey I have realized how important it is to keep your dreams and goals alive. Many times (from talking to friends and family) when women get married, they put their dreams on the back burner for the family. The family becomes priority and more often then not they lose their individual identity and take on the identity of the family. Not only is it important for YOU to keep your identity, the family needs you to keep your identity. I have spoken with of course my husband, as well as other married men or men in long term relationships and have found that men want us to keep our goals. It is our drive often times that attracts them to us…ladies did you know that?!! I didn’t!

Well as I journey I am continuing to pursue my dreams and aspirations of writing and am happy to say that I have a true supporter in my corner…my husband. He encourages me and helps me stay focused when I get distracted. His belief in me helps me to believe in myself when I have doubts. Ladies, in relationships, I challenge you to focus on your goals and dreams. Keep your identity alive. Don’t neglect your family but don’t lose sight of yourself. Its all about balancing. Continue this journey with me and as always I welcome the feedback. Check out Gossiper’s Single & The City…Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/05/07/my-life-as-a-wife-9/feed/ 3 My Life As A Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/04/02/my-life-as-a-wife-8/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/04/02/my-life-as-a-wife-8/#comments Fri, 02 Apr 2010 07:30:23 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=1108 So what I’m learning is that in every relationship, be it personal or professional, there will be tests at some point or another.  A marriage is no different. Not every test is “bad” it may be a test of finances, time (I have mentioned working conflicting schedules), family/friend, etc. but what I am learning that we can choose how we react to our test. I am happy I have a husband that during any test we’re faced with we are able to make the best out of it and actually allow it to bring us closer. When it comes to the test of time, we just get creative about how we spend the time we DO have together. If it’s a test of finances we, again, just get creative about how we entertain one another for a bit. Its all about choices and how we choose to allow it to affect us. I don’t have much to say this month other than I am truly enjoying my journey and the adventures each day brings as a wife. I feel blessed and just asks that God continues to teach me how to be the best wife possible. I always welcome feedback as I feel we can all learn from one another J continue journeying with me and don’t forget to check out Gossiper’s Single & The City blog…until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/04/02/my-life-as-a-wife-8/feed/ 0 My Life As A Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/03/05/my-life-as-a-wife-7/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/03/05/my-life-as-a-wife-7/#comments Fri, 05 Mar 2010 07:30:14 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=1060 I love being married. Even when I am stressed out with work and school I find serenity in Robert, he is my rock. It has been 9 months now that we have been married and exactly one year we have been in our home and each day gets better and better. Many people ask me if marriage is hard and I truly believe marriage (as well as any relationship be it pleasure or business) is what you make it. If you put the time and effort in it will show. I find myself thinking about him and his needs/wants before mine and honestly see him doing the same thing. Its really neat! I guess thats how its supposed to be :) I don’t have alot to say this month other than I am enjoying my life right now. I enjoy feedback so if you wives/hubby’s out there have suggestions/comments for us please share! Continue the journey with me and don’t forget to check out Gossipers Single & The City column…Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/03/05/my-life-as-a-wife-7/feed/ 0 My Life As A Wife! http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-life-as-a-wife-6/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-life-as-a-wife-6/#comments Fri, 05 Feb 2010 06:01:30 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=999 There isn’t a guide or how to be book on being in a successful marriage or being a productive wife for that matter. Its all trial and error and every marriage is different. I tell people all the time that neither one of us are perfect BUT Rob and I are perfect for each other. The underlying message is, we both have flaws. No one is perfect, and since we know this we must embrace one another’s imperfections. Our imperfections make us who we are. Its not fair to hold your spouse/mate to standards so high they’re unattainable. What I love about Rob is he is fair and understanding. He allows me to make errors and give me time and space needed to correct them.

The counter-act of this is strengths. We all have weaknesses (flaws) and strengths. If what they say is true about opposites attracting, allow your mate to use their strengths where you may be weak. For example if your mate is strong financially; allow them to handle the bills, savings acct etc. Its all about enhancing one another to be the best. Rob and I try to bring out the best in one another and in turn add a nice balance to our relationship. Its been 8 short months so far, continue journeying with me. Don’t forget to check out Gossipers Single & The City blog. Until next time…Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-life-as-a-wife-6/feed/ 0 My Life As A Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/01/01/my-life-as-a-wife-5/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/01/01/my-life-as-a-wife-5/#comments Fri, 01 Jan 2010 17:22:10 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=931 HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

I am so excited to be entering 2010 as Mrs. Thompson…it’s a feeling like none other J I very seldom make New Years resolutions since (1) its hard for me to keep them and (2) I don’t need to wait for a New Year to surface before deciding to work on me, BUT I will say that this year I would love to embrace and enjoy being a wife all the more. With that said, this year I am going to be true to myself.As a new wife I find myself receiving advice from others often. What I should/shouldn’t do in my marriage, when I should/shouldn’t have kids, what kind of career I should/shouldn’t pursue. I love listening to others because I feel if we all just listen and learn from the mistakes of others then sometimes our struggles or questions can be eliminated. But, sometimes I feel the advice is not the best for my situation and its up to me to decipher what I accept or reject as advice. I have been married for 7 months (next week) so clearly I am not the wife expert; its an ongoing learning experience, but I feel as long as I am true to myself and husband then it will work out fine. I am a people pleaser and know that is something I must work on. Not that I am naïve or have no sense of self, I just enjoy making others happy, but now its time to make me happy. I can’t go into 2010 still trying to please and live up to the expectation of others because not only does it (decisions/choices) affect me, it now affects my husband and household…that’s a no no. I have to resolve that its okay not to be a doctor like some wanted me to be. Not because its hard but simply because that’s not what I want to be in life. Its okay for me to have a hobby writing, its my hobby! When I do stuff that others want me to do there is no passion behind, no thrill I am merely doing it because it will make someone else happy. Career choices and kids should be questions me and the hubby answer and live with and not others. When I do the things I truly like and enjoy that’s when I am at my best. That’s when I can give the best of me as a wife, friend, sister etc.

I will always listen to the advice of others and respect their opinions but as I embrace 2010 I am also asking myself what it is I want to do/be/see/try in life because that’s ultimately going to make me happy and aid in me being a better wife and person overall.  I encourage you to ask yourself when you decide to do something, is it because YOU want to, or you know it will make mama/grandma/pastor/friend happy? At times it is totally fine to do something to make someone else happy, just have a balance and put your happiness first. As you welcome 2010 with open arms take a second to Thank God for allowing you to see it, so many others didn’t. And since you now have a chance to see another year, do something YOU want to do. Even if its never been done, step out and try it. Continue journeying with me on My Life As A Wife and check out Gossipers Single & The City blog. Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2010/01/01/my-life-as-a-wife-5/feed/ 1 My Life as a Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2009/12/04/my-life-as-a-wife-4/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2009/12/04/my-life-as-a-wife-4/#comments Fri, 04 Dec 2009 07:30:30 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=848 Last week we had an impromptu game night at our house with a few other couples. We laughed, ate, and competed against one another. We even had a battle of the sexes where of course the ladies SHUT THEM DOWN!! We played Spoons (an old family game) and Partini. Partini is 5 games in 1, very fun and a good investment if you enjoy entertaining. Over all this was a very fun and relaxing night. As I went to bed that night, I literally wondered when the last time I had laughed and just enjoyed myself so freely; I couldn’t remember. Rob said he had a good time and we should do this more often.

So as I continue this journey, I realize as much as we push ourselves to work hard and succeed, sometimes its best to stop and have a little fun. Just bask in the moment. Don’t think about what we have to do tomorrow, what we have to do at work Monday, folding the clothes, returning the email, etc. Its not only relaxing and fun for us, its needed for a healthy spiritual and physical well being. Studies have shown that laughter can decrease blood pressure and also stress. With the constant going and striving in life sometimes fun can be put on the back burner creating a dry tension. Laughter can break the tension and lighten the mood.

Since Rob and I have conflicting schedules we have decided that the time we do have together (be it 10 minutes or 3 hours) will be just that, our time TOGETHER! We will cut phones off and just enjoy each others company. Whether its watching the last ten minutes of the news or going to a restaurant, it will be our time to focus on one another and not worry about tomorrow. Not only is tomorrow not promised, tomorrow will take care of itself.  As we approach the end of the year and what can be a stressful yet enjoyable season, take time to enjoy the moment because once its gone, you’ll never get it back. Continue this journey with me and check out Gossipers Single & The City. Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

]]> http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2009/12/04/my-life-as-a-wife-4/feed/ 0 My Life as a Wife http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2009/11/06/my-life-as-a-wife-3/ http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/2009/11/06/my-life-as-a-wife-3/#comments Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:00:55 +0000 Miss Gossip http://www.gossipsister.com/blog/?p=737 So as I continue this journey I realize that for the past 26 years I have done things one way while for the past 29 Rob have done them another way. We have to give one another the benefit of the doubt and continue to openly communicate. When I took my vows this summer for some reason I assumed Rob and I would magically fuse together and mystically become one! Become one in everything, finances, hobbies, kids, sports etc, BUT how many people have heard that men are from Mars and women are from Venus?! (Jumping up and down waving both hands shouting I HAVE I HAVE!!)

The fact is, although we are one in the eye of God, we are different beings with different make up. Men and women think and react differently. I tend to be more emotional (as most women) while Rob is more analytical and realistic (as most men), BUT this is not a bad thing. It gives us balance. I balance him while he balances me. I usually want things immediately when I decide I want/need it, while Rob thinks about it and is more patient when it comes to his wants and needs. Again it’s another balancing and compromising situation that’s usually best for both of us.

I am learning that we have to give one another the benefit of the doubt. True enough we became “one” in June, but it’s going to take many days, months, and years to become “one” in every situation. Things as minor as putting toilet tissue up and over or down and under is preference; I may like it one way while Rob likes it another. We a have been by ourselves for 20-something years, doing things our way, it’s only natural that we understand that benefit of the doubt is a must. I believe Rob would not do anything to deliberately hurt me so if there is something I am offended by, I try to give the benefit of the doubt and look at it as a misunderstanding, etc. I also try to do this in my friendships and partnerships because I am not perfect and I would expect the same. Continue following me on My Life as a Wife journey and don’t forget to check out Gossiper’s Singe & The City latest installment. Until Next Time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip

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