Ask The Love Doctor
IT’S BACK!! We took a short break last month but Doctor Love is back with a great set of questions and answers this month. If you would like your questions to be answered please email drlove@gossipsister.com we will always respect your privacy. Enjoy!
Dr Love,
My boyfriend/baby’s daddy have been living together for roughly 3 years. Everytime I bring up marriage he gets upset but yet he tells our friends that I am the one. Should I continue to wait? Impatient
Yes be patient. If he is showing you signs of commitment and everything is going well your time will come. Men take more time than women do when it comes to marriage.
Dr. Love,
I have been dating a girl for the past 3 months. I really like her but because of her sketchy past she has decided to become celibate until she gets married. I am trying to be understanding but all my friends thinks its strange that she decided to become celibate after meeting me when she has been around the block more than a few times. How can I tell if she is sincere or just playing me? Fool In Love
Only time will tell. If you really like her then she may be worth waiting for.
Dr. Love,
My boyfriend is getting ready to go off to college out of state and I am going to the 12th grade. He agreed to break up because of the distance but he asked me not to date anyone. Is it fair for me to wait on him while he goes off? First Love
No! Don’t let him hold you back from dating. He broke up with you because he wants to be single while in college, but at least he did not lead you on. “So you better counsel that man like Nino” Yea I’m Single in the words of Lil Wayne!!!!!!
Dr. Love
How do I get my husband to be more assertive to his ex wife. She calls all through the night, drop the son off whenever it is convenient for her, and ALWAYS ask for money. He acts like a puppy whenever she comes around. How do I get him to handle her before I do? Fed Up
That’s tough. The both of you will have to sit down and determine what will work best for your relationship. Ask him how would he feel if you had a man calling you in the middle of the night? I don’t think he would like that very much. So ask him to respect your feelings, but at the same time you have to be fair when thinking about his.
Dr. Love
Last year I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me. To get him back I slept with his best friend two months ago. Ever since then he won’t talk to me or even look at me. How can he be mad when he did it first? Confused
What do you mean how can he be mad? You slept with his best friend, not some random dude. First of all 2 wrongs never make a right!!!!! Second you are women, so have some respect for yourself don’t sleep with your mates friend or anyone else just get even! I don’t blame him for not speaking to you that’s low! What if the shoe was on the other foot? Never give yourself to anyone who is not worthy of you. Get it together before you ruin your reputation and don’t forget that AIDS and other STDs are out there. Please believe they are real and it can happen to you.
Dr. Love
My Fiancé of 4 years has a 2 year old daughter (I am sure you can figure it out). Well every since the baby came our marriage plans has been put on hold. Last month he said he think we should become common law married until the baby turns 18 because he doesn’t want me to get caught up in the child support stuff. Is it best I just move on? Hurt
Well that is something you have to decide, I can’t make that decision for you. It depends on if you can deal with living with this child and loving this child as if it was your very own. If you can’t do this then you need to move on because this child may someday live with the both of you and it wouldn’t be fair to punish the child for something your fiancé did. If you don’t trust your fiancé (check his phone, wonder what he doing, etc) then you need to take some time and determine is he what you really want along with the child or do you deserve better. If you can handle all of this then it may be best to wait, so that you won’t be tied to child support.
Dr. Love
I asked my boyfriend of a year if I could have his email password. He said no because I should trust him enough not to want to go through it and I said if he has nothing to hide then why can’t I have it. How do you see it? Curious
I see it both ways. If you trust him then you don’t need it unless you really have a valid reason. However he could be hiding something, but maybe not. I say let it be because whatever’s done in the dark will come to the light.
Dr. Love
My wife has a son by a soldier who was killed in Iraq. Everything I do (or don’t do) is compared to her deceased husband, who in her eyes was perfect. How can I get out of his shadow? Frustrated
Counseling ASAP! She seems to be still in love with ex-husband and misses him. So to heal her wound she takes it out on you, which can destroy a relationship.
