HELP!
It feels so good to help people. I like to extend myself to others and make a positive impact on those that need it. My downfall however is asking for and/or receiving help. I don’t like that. It makes me uncomfortable to the fullest extent. In most cases, I suppose it’s just because if I’m “the helper” then I should be seen as just that, and not enlist the help of others. In the most extreme cases, I feel being helped hurts my pride, shows me as weak, and puts me in a vulnerable position. When this happens I withdraw; it’s almost as if I’d rather suffer. I’ve learned recently that this type of behavior is not okay at all! It only causes more damage in the long-run and after all, if I’m in the position to where I need help and don’t get it/ask for it, then I will be worse off than before.
I am very thankful to have family & friends (my loved ones) as helpmates. I always worry about how I will be looked upon, and fret being judged, but a loved one told me that it is in times of adversity when you separate the people who just say they care from the ones who actually SHOW they really do care. Those are the type of people that I should feel comfortable with in hard times and in good times, and I shouldn’t withdraw from them or be ashamed to tell them when I need help. Luckily, it’s been revealed to me that I have a nice handful of people like that in my life (and possibly there’s more, but I just haven’t given them the chance to show me who they are).
It’s okay to let people inside your life and allow them to see you at your weakest moments, as long as those people truly have your best interest at heart. Be wise enough to know the difference between those who care and those who only act like they care. Don’t guard yourself from those that care. Ask for help. Receive help. Those are all the key points of life that I am currently learning how to do. One thing I discovered is it’s already tough enough to be down & out, but I shouldn’t pull myself away from loved ones to end up down, out & lonely! Embrace help.
Be Blessed
Gossiper
