Last month I came across an article on Essence.com written by relationship advice expert, Steven James Dixon, called “10 Ways to Go from Girlfriend to Wife.” I found it quite fitting for Single & The City, and especially the bullet-point below:
Be a Godly Woman
There is just something sexy to me about a Godly woman. You want a Godly man, don’t you? The Bible is a relationship handbook. Read it. Follow it. Live by it. When your man is weak, you need to be able to refer to that word. When the Devil attacks, he needs to know that you know God.
It’s a great article, so read more after you leave from here. I think it’s very important that we be who we are upfront when dating and finding your match, because in the end, your true self will come out anyway. I’ve always struggled (growing up) with not trying to seem too “goody-goody” and coming off as a “church-girl.” I don’t think I am those things, but I was and always have been involved in the church. I know now that it is nothing to be ashamed of; I should have no shame in my love for God, because it is through HIM that my husband should seek my heart anyway. So, ladies be not ashamed of who you are, and let God shine through every facet of your life, especially in your love life.
My next point that I just thought of tonight is why when dating we mask who we really are just in effort to get what we want? Guys: you will be the sweetest, thoughtful, communicative (because we all know how much ya’ll love to talk & express yourselves *insert sarcasm here*), most considerate gentleman on the face of the planet, but once you get so far along in the relationship or courtship, the laziness kicks in and those things don’t happen anymore. What’s up with that!? FRUSTRATING.
But, I won’t just pick on men… *aaahem* Ladies: you will be the sweetest, most non-naggingness (yes, I made that word up), catering, open-minded person for awhile but then it fades as comfort levels settle in. We all need to remember to be upfront and real in the first place. Don’t reel someone in with your charm but then show your true self down the line. What is going to happen is, no matter when your true identity is revealed either that person will like it or not, so just go ahead and get it out the way in the first place and stop wasting time dating people who are not for you! We are hindering the process of finding our lifelong partner by playing games. If you are playing games, just play them upfront, someone will want to play those games with you; there’s someone for everyone! HAHA!
I’m glad I got that out my system *smile* I feel a little better, just had to vent, and I hope you all understand where I am coming from!?
Now let us conclude this meeting with our new Single & The City anthem, Sade’s “Soldier of Love”…
