Ask The Love Doctor!
Dr. Love’s Column will now be posted every 2nd Friday of the month. We will compile all the juicy questions and answers into one steamy post. This months post include questions about virginity from a 16 year old, a wife’s struggle to deal with an outside child, and spending Valentines Day with the fella’s. Please feel free to submit your questions to drlove@gossipsister.com and remember we will always respect your privacy. Enjoy this February edition!
Dr. Love
Lately the conversation between my live-in/longterm boyfriend and I seems superficial. Its like we talk but just “hey hows it going?” “how was your day?” etc nothing meaningful anymore. If I tell him I want to talk about something he say he has a lot on his mind. How should I take this? ~Silent Communicator
Something or someone else has his attention. Now it’s hard to determine whether its someone or something only time well tell. You have to come up with a solution to figure out what the issue is. You can do this by talking to some of his close family members or friends, maybe they can give you some insight as to what is going on. Whatever you do try not to give up until you have exhausted all avenues. Good Luck!
Dr. Love
My brother recently moved in with my husband and me. He is looking for a job but in the mean time it is causing tension with my marriage because while we’re working, he’s at home playing video games. How should I handle this so that it doesn’t interfere? ~Stuck in the middle
Well you have to remember your husband is your intermediate family now. This is tough, but you and your husband have to determine a deadline for your brother to move out of the house. Once this is determined this needs to be communicated to your brother and he has to respect your decision and grow up and stand on his own two feet. Hopefully he understands this situation. You just have to remember nothing or no one should come in between your marriage, this includes family members!
Dr. Love
Me and my BFF were inseparable. Since she starting dating this guy she is not able to go out or talk to me that much or her family for that matter. We very seldom see her, its like she’s become distant. Should I take this a sign she is enjoying her relationship or a sign that something isn’t right? ~ Concerned BFF
You should take this as a sign that she is probably enjoying her relationship. To ensure that this is the case, next time you talk to ask her how the relationship is going. Watch her body language you should be able to determine whether or not she is telling the truth about her relationship. If she says everything is going well congratulate her and express your feelings to her.
Hi Dr. Love
I am 16 years old. I am a virgin but I told my boyfriend he could tell others we had sex so he wouldn’t look bad in front of his boys. Somehow the lie spread out of control and although I’m a virgin I have a reputation at school. I asked my boyfriend to tell everyone the truth but he said he can’t because it would make him look bad. How do I defend my name? ~Hopeless
Well that’s going to be tough to do. Everyone one has heard exactly what they wanted to hear and that’s the “GOSSIP”. It’s a great conversation for people to have. When you are asked about the situation be honest and tell the truth, but understand that most people are not going to believe you. Also you may want to think about your relationship with this person because he cared more about his reputation than he cared about yours. He was willing to put your reputation out there, but now that you have asked him to retract his comment he doesn’t want to do so. Think about that, he is being very selfish and you may want to end this relationship because of this issue. This may also help your reputation because everyone will know that you broke up with him because he lied.
Dr. Love
I was preparing to have a nice Valentines Day with my girlfriend since this would be our first together. I think she is looking forward to it too, but my best friend won tickets to the All Star game in Texas and invited me to go. I know she is going to be upset if I go out of town to Texas without her for Valentines Day. What do I do? ~ Dilemma
You go to the game BRO! LOL! This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. If she doesn’t understand this and gets upset then you may want to leave her now because a relationship is about sacrifices and this is something she should definitely understand this! If she is cool about your decision then you may want to consider marrying her because she is a keeper!
Dr. Love
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have always had an open honest relationship however lately I feel something is distracting him. I have never went through his emails, phones, etc but should I? I can tell something isn’t right but he won’t talk about it. ~ Worried Wife
Trust is very important in relationship. Whatever is done in the dark will come to the light eventually without you playing inspector gadget. Trust that your husband is doing the right thing and continue to believe in your relationship. What you don’t want to do is start accusing him of something that he didn’t do, which could really cause issues in your relationship. Now I am not saying don’t be cautious, but don’t go looking for trouble. Have faith!
Dr. Love
I have a WONDERFUL fiancé. I want to do something special for him for Valentines Day. What do men like for Valentines Day? ~Eager
It depends on what type of man you have. Listen closely for something that he has been wanting, maybe ask one of his close friends.
Dr. Love
I am a teen mom of a 8 month old son. His dad doesn’t help with him at all. Is there anything I can do to get him to be more active in his son’s life? ~Drama
You may want to talk to someone he looks up to like an older friend or a family member to discuss the importance of being a father figure. Sometimes people respond better to advice from other people instead of from those closest to you.
Dr. Love
I have been married for 7 months. Before getting married I knew it was a possibility my now husband had a child from a short fling before we met, and at the time I was ok with that. The DNA test came back 2 weeks ago that he is indeed the father of an 11 month old daughter. I don’t like the fact of knowing our child will never be first. Am I being selfish? ~Disappointed
I understand that this is a really tough situation, but you must remember you took a vow before God to love this man for better or for worse. Those are some powerful words and now you must live by them. Remember that the child that you and him will have will always be the first.
