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Dr. Love,
I fell in love with the woman of my dreams. She is everything I want and more. I forgot to mention she is black and I am white. Her family is very open and supportive of our interracial relationship however my family is not. My mom has made rude remarks in front of her. It hurts me to see my girlfriend hurt and mistreated. How do I handle the situation? I plan to propose around Valentine’s Day. The White Guy
This is a tough situation. Here are my suggestions: Talk with your family and really express to them how the both of you feel about each other. (If you haven’t done this already) Also find out what are your families issues/concerns with you dating her (Is it her looks, behavior, health etc). After that is established let them know were you are coming from and express to them that they are going to have to you respect you and your relationship. If they can’t do that then you are going to have to develop some TUFF love for your family, because if you are getting ready to propose to her then you have to understand that she is now your family and no one else comes before her. If you and future fiancée understand that and doesn’t let this affect your relationships then either of you have nothing to worry about. You may also want to find someone in your family that supports you and have them speak on your behalf. Notify your family that someday you guys may have kids and how are you going to explain to your daughter or son that there grandmother doesn’t like their mother because of her skin color or whatever the issue maybe? Give them something to think about. Whatever you do don’t give up on your girl and don’t you let her give up on your relationship because you guys are getting ready to take vow before God saying for better or for worse, so you might as well start practicing now. Keep your future fiancée’s confidence up and ask her that when this situation is all over with please don’t hold a grudge against your family. Last encourage counseling for the entire family, both sides. Let me know how this turns out and good luck.
Dr. Love
Is there anything wrong with harmless flirting when you are married? Curious
It really depends on your relationship. The question I always seem to ask myself is would I want my spouse behaving like this or would I do this while my spouse is here and would they be okay with it? If my answer is “Yes” then cool, but if it’s “No” then respect your relationship.
Dr. Love
I recently lost my job and my boyfriend of 8 months told me I could move in with him until I get on my feet. Is he being nice or is that a way of controlling me with finances etc?
Well it depends. If he is a genuinely a nice person then this may be good opportunity for you to balance your finances until you can find another career. I would say take the chance if you feel like he really means it, this will give both of you an opportunity to see how you would like living with each other. It provides you with a sneak peak of what the future holds, which is not a bad thing if you want to someday take it to the next level. So I say “GO AHEAD HONEY, TAKE A CHANCE” Coming to America voice
Dr. Love,
For the past 3 or so years now, I have been going on dates with this woman that I grow up with. She is so amazing and I have always had interest in here growing up. However, she seems to be very flakey now. She sets up dates for us but never follow thru with them. We have not went out together in about three months. I am feeling that its time to move on. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I am feeling so lost on what to do…
Thanks,
Thelostone
I agree with you I definitely think its time to move on. Disconnect yourself from her, such as giving her the cold shoulder (Not answering calls, not calling, short conversations as if you don’t have the time). You need to give her time to decide whether she wants you or not and only time will tell how she really feels about you. This gives her a chance to miss you. You never what you have until it’s gone.
