Ask The Love Doctor
Welcome to the latest edition of Ask The Love Doctor! I hope you enjoy the following advice. If you can’t use it, pass it on to someone who can! Blessings!
What are some signs a guy is getting serious about our relationship? I’m trying not to read too much into my situation. -Need a Sign
Here are a few signs:
Doesn’t mind spending time with you, Canceling appointments to spend time with you such as spending time with friends or family, Inviting you around the his family and friends, Shows you he cares about you, Communicates his future plans and includes you in these plans, Asking you if you see him in your future, Not dating other women, and Expresses his feelings toward you
Instead of my boyfriend apologizing he will send me flowers or buy me something. That’s nice and all, but why can’t men vocally admit when they were wrong and just say it? -Not Buying It
Normally as humans we don’t like to admit that we are wrong nor do we like to talk about these situations. We would rather put them on the back burner and act like nothing happened. But if you want him to voice that he is wrong, you have to voice to him how you feel about his actions and that you want to talk through the issue. Most issues are resolved through communication, so this is a very important attribute in a relationship.
There’s a guy I used to date and it didn’t work out at the time but we never really wrote each other and cut ties. He says when I need anything to let him know and “he got me.” However, when I do really need him he flakes out on me and is nowhere to be found… It’s a continuous cycle. What’s up with that? -Frustrated
I think he was just trying to be nice, not really thinking you would ever call on him. My advice to you is not to have any expectations from him and utilize another avenue to resolve your issues/needs.
I dated a guy in college and we broke it off with intentions on getting back together later. Now, 5 years later I have learned that we are not for each other, but he is under the impression that it will work; I know it won’t, so how can I break the news to him? -Barrier of Bad News
You just have to be honest and express how you feel, 5 years is a long time to be apart, and he has to understand during this time frame both of you have probably changed significantly, and neither of you are the same person. Explain that you feel this relationship is not going to work and you wish him the best of luck.
I’ve been openly dating for a few months now and think I’ve met someone that I want to seriously focus on, however, I am uncomfortable telling a few of the other guys that I want to stop seeing them because I don’t want to create any beef. How can I do that? -Off the Market
First, ensure that the person you want to be exclusive with feels the same way you do. You don’t want to put all your eggs into one basket. After that is established, communicate with other the guys that you feel like the relationship is not going to work out and you wish them the best. There is really no easy way to break up with someone, you just have to be honest and hope you are making the right decision.
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