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HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

I am so excited to be entering 2010 as Mrs. Thompson…it’s a feeling like none other J I very seldom make New Years resolutions since (1) its hard for me to keep them and (2) I don’t need to wait for a New Year to surface before deciding to work on me, BUT I will say that this year I would love to embrace and enjoy being a wife all the more. With that said, this year I am going to be true to myself.As a new wife I find myself receiving advice from others often. What I should/shouldn’t do in my marriage, when I should/shouldn’t have kids, what kind of career I should/shouldn’t pursue. I love listening to others because I feel if we all just listen and learn from the mistakes of others then sometimes our struggles or questions can be eliminated. But, sometimes I feel the advice is not the best for my situation and its up to me to decipher what I accept or reject as advice. I have been married for 7 months (next week) so clearly I am not the wife expert; its an ongoing learning experience, but I feel as long as I am true to myself and husband then it will work out fine. I am a people pleaser and know that is something I must work on. Not that I am naïve or have no sense of self, I just enjoy making others happy, but now its time to make me happy. I can’t go into 2010 still trying to please and live up to the expectation of others because not only does it (decisions/choices) affect me, it now affects my husband and household…that’s a no no. I have to resolve that its okay not to be a doctor like some wanted me to be. Not because its hard but simply because that’s not what I want to be in life. Its okay for me to have a hobby writing, its my hobby! When I do stuff that others want me to do there is no passion behind, no thrill I am merely doing it because it will make someone else happy. Career choices and kids should be questions me and the hubby answer and live with and not others. When I do the things I truly like and enjoy that’s when I am at my best. That’s when I can give the best of me as a wife, friend, sister etc.

I will always listen to the advice of others and respect their opinions but as I embrace 2010 I am also asking myself what it is I want to do/be/see/try in life because that’s ultimately going to make me happy and aid in me being a better wife and person overall.  I encourage you to ask yourself when you decide to do something, is it because YOU want to, or you know it will make mama/grandma/pastor/friend happy? At times it is totally fine to do something to make someone else happy, just have a balance and put your happiness first. As you welcome 2010 with open arms take a second to Thank God for allowing you to see it, so many others didn’t. And since you now have a chance to see another year, do something YOU want to do. Even if its never been done, step out and try it. Continue journeying with me on My Life As A Wife and check out Gossipers Single & The City blog. Until next time…

Be Blessed

Miss Gossip