Through A Man’s Eyes…
You can be my baby, it don’t matter if you’re black or white! -Michael Jackson, Black or White.
There seems to be a big dilemma about how a lot of established black men have a thing for white women. The main argument is that white women are less dramatic and are easier get along with than black women or other women of color. In a lot of ways this seems to be true, and black women believe black men go that route because they want a weak-minded woman and want to be with someone they can run all over. But is that really being weak or being submissive? In the 11th chapter of 1 Corinthians it says in verse 8 & 9, 8-For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man. 9-Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. So perhaps white women are doing what they are supposed to do. I know that non-white women can be and are submissive to their mates, however, the biggest difference seems to be that the majority of white women already are submissive and black women have to be submissive, instead of it coming naturally. The current Independent Movement by women has also conformed women in the black community to feel like they don’t need a man and can do everything on their own. To be honest I think it’s great that a woman has the strength, will, and intellect of being able to take care of herself, but it’s not about needing a man but WANTING a strong, good man, and being malleable to him. What is the point in being all Ms. Independent and can’t nobody tell you nothing, but knowing deep down you’ll trade it all for a husband and a family. Nonetheless, as much as your supposed to be there for your mate, a man has to be there for the woman as well; for it also says in the 11th chapter of 1 Corinthians, 11-Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. 12-For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
So how about you can be my baby, it don’t matter as long as you come from the Lord.
Inspirationally Yours,
Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E.
(Inspiring & Notably Spreading Positivity In Relationships Everywhere)
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As an African American newly wed I must say I have to agree with Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E. I am learning now later in life how to be submissive when other cultures teach their daughters early in life…
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I agree. Nicely said. I know a lot of females down with the Independent movent/I don’t need a man/why is that fine black man with that white girl. It’s all in how they were raised or the influece of their single friends. Of course theirs nothing wrong with an independent women and Black men should appreciate that quality about a women but, Some Black women have too much pride and maybe need to be down with the “Submissive Movement”..lol. Now, Can a woman be Indepenent and submissive? maybe that can be your next blog.
God Bless!
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Wow this a very good blog I will have to say!!! For me I have never seen color to be an issue, honest I say whatever makes you happy! I do believe that you are right the “Independent Strong Black Woman” who thinks she can do it all by herself will def look at this situation that way ….. but, God did make woman for man and he never said what color ….. But, to be honest I think it has to do a little with the color cause alot of men love light skinned woman cause of their hair and skin tone ( my little brother being one) and black woman get jealous and in their feelings and how are majority of woman light skin? Cause one parent was white and the other black!! So, they were the ones who didnt get the guy they wanted cause they were to dark! So, they hold on to that and I have resentment towards any black man with a white woman!!
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That was great! Interesting and enlighting! I myself don’t see color! I. think it is a matter of choice! Shout out to our men who choose outside our race, for their own personal reasons! Very good point on ms. Independent! Because if I have to be honest everybody knows somebody in their circle of friends…that’s considered to be the Ms. Independent women! Lol they are not hard to dicern! Lol and that is not to knock their independence-but it does differ greatly from most white independent women! My main thing is…do you! But don’t disrespect us because you didn’t choose us! Because all of us are not alike.
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Oh! And the best part about the blog…..as long as you come from the lord! That’s really what’s up! Black white pink or purple! Lol because if she is of the lord then color should not matter to any of us! Lol.
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Well, I hope my posts aren’t discounted because of this, but I happen to be white. Nothing special, it’s just how God chose to color me. I can tell you this: although black women may have the reputation for being independent, they by no means have the market cornered. Most white women I’ve known certainly do not have submission come naturally. Some may be more subtle about it, but the attitude towards submission in general is a disdain towards it as if it implies that they are somehow second class citizens or something. The real cause of this attitude is pride, whether one is black or white we all struggle with that. The Biblical charge to submission has nothing whatsoever to do with personal abilities or value. My wife is more decisive than I am in many situations and is more of a natural leader than me. That doesn’t change the fact that I am to be the head of this house — it only means I need to work harder. The reason for the submission is so that marriage can fulfill its purpose which is to portray Christ and the church to the world. Reread Ephesians 5:22-33 paying special attention to verses 32 and 33. After all of Paul’s statements about submission and leadership he says that he was talking about Christ and the church. Essentially he says wives should submit and , men, you’re wives too — to Christ. Then he says basically “Oh, and live in your marriage the same way.” We need to portray Christ and the church to the world or out marriage isn’t doing what Christ intended it to do.