G.O.S.S.I.P. Sister

Here’s the latest installment of the column that answers alllll your ♥ questions! This blog is what YOU make it so keep sending in questions or topics that you need advice on! Our Dr. Love will answer with integrity and you won’t be disappointed. Enjoy!

Dr. Love,

I had a VERY good man. He is currently serving in Iraq. I slept with another guy. It only happened one time and I feel so bad. I feel bad because I know I am one of the lucky ones because my fiance will do anything for me. Should I tell him?~Guilty

I am going to answer this question with a question. If he cheated on you would you want him to tell you? Once you answer this question you will have your answer. Good luck!

Dr. Love,

I have been good friends with a guy since college. He would be my ideal mate. How do I get him to see me as more than friends? ~His Friend

You can’t get him to see you as more than a friend, he has to see that for himself. However you should express your feelings toward him and see what happens. You would rather take a chance than wonder what if. Ask him out to dinner and have that conversation. Go get your MAN!!!! LOL!

Dr. Love,

My husband cheated on me 2 years ago. We went through counseling and I forgave him however I didn’t forget. I constantly bring it up whenever we argue and he has the nerve to say that bothers him. What am I supposed to do? ~Can’t Forget

You have to stop bringing it up. There is nothing more irritating to be reminded of your mistakes; it makes you feel like the person never forgave you. I know it’s tough not to mention this situation, but to continue a healthy relationship you have to try. Put your self in his shoes he probably feel really bad that he made that mistake he has to live with the fact that he hurt the love of his life and that’s pain enough, trust me. Good luck with your situation and let me know how it works out.

I’m pissed! I just read my celebrity tea and discovered the latest scandal being that Shaq allegedly got caught cheating on his wife for the 2nd time!!! Are men really never satisfied??? I don’t want to hear once a cheater always a cheater either… I need a better explanation… After all he went through to get his wife back and not divorce him the 1st time, he turns around and messes up again?! Now he will probably dish out another half-million dollars in gifts… Wouldn’t it just be common sense and cheaper to just be single? Why be in a relationship?~Livid

Dr. Love:

It’s something in men that wires us to want to be with women. To us we see nothing wrong with polygamy it seems natural. It has to do with pride, egos, and power at times. Whatever it is that wires most women to be faithful, we have the opposite. If a woman plays games with her spouse by withholding sex for whatever reason usually backfires because what she won’t do another woman will and another woman is always willing to take your spot. There are men that are faithful in their relationships but honestly the urges never go away to be with other women we just control it. It’s hard but it’s doable if a man wants to or feel the woman is worth it.

Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E.:

The more I learn about cheating the more complex it gets…. It’s not about being single or married or not loving someone… Most of the time cheating for men is not emotional, it’s a triggered sensation so whether a man cheats or not, he will always have the sensation when he sees something appealing to him. Perhaps the ones that don’t cheat are very satisfied or maybe have fear of  getting caught. To tell the truth its seem like every great man except Christ has been involved with more than one woman…Even Martin Luther King Jr…But that does not mean they did not love their wives… At the end of the day a woman will never fully understand why men do what they do, and vice versa.

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