G.O.S.S.I.P. Sister

This week we had a lot of good questions, some directed towards certain bloggers individually, which is great! If you want a female perspective or a particular pseudonym to answer it just specify that in your email. Instructions on sending your confidential questions are below!

Hey Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E. got a topic for your next blog: Why do men lie so much? Example- I dated a guy who said I was his everything, we break up and now he’s married! Or you (women) tell them how we felt the whole time then once we break up they ask why you never told me you felt that way?-Just Curious

Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E.:

Women are going to have to stop blaming men and blame themselves. Based on how the man got you or his prior reputation is a clear sign of how things will end up despite what he tells you. Also if you’re the one that initiated you all being together knowing he wasn’t all the way down for being in a committed relationship, it’s okay to mention being together but if you don’t get the response you would hope for then you might want to just leave it alone because if you force it he may have real feelings for you but may not be ready or lacks the maturity to be in a exclusive relationship.

Mr.I.N.S.P.I.R.E., how do you feel about girlfriend’s who erase their boyfriend’s exes numbers out their phone?-Just Curious

Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E.:

This is a big sign of insecurity. A person is going to do what they want to do regardless. If you have legitimate suspicion then you should confront the issue. You don’t have to erase a person’s # because, just like question 1, a lot of people know what’s going on but try to deny it or try to pretend like they know what’s going on but really don’t. Either way, life is too short to live it in constant drama.

Dr. Love, My mother-in-law does not like me. She always points out the mistakes I make. She tells my husband he could’ve done so much better in my face. Even though he is an only child, how can I get my husband to stand up for me? ~Second Best

The reality is you married your husband and not his mother. I would talk to your husband about how you feel, and I would not visit her house until she comes around or you feel comfortable. When your husband starts spending less time visiting his mothers’ house because he is without you, the mother will eventually reach out to you. The mother would rather gain you as a daughter-in-law than lose her son, hopefully.

Dr. Love, My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We are both in school and I just recently started working FT like him. He still see me as being a stay-at-home wife, but I am just as tired as him. How can I get him to help me around the house more? ~Super Woman

You have to communicate with your husband. It is hard for you to do something for three years and then stop. Just talk and when you see something that you want done then just ask him. If you ask him to do the dishes everyday, then eventually he will do them without you asking.

Dr. Love, I must admit that I have been with more than a few guys in the past, however, I have tried very hard to shed that imagine and reputation. I have been practicing celibacy for 2 years now. My current boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He respects me and my celibacy decision and we have a great relationship. He recently ran into someone from my past and now says he is having a hard time dealing with it. How can I show him my past is the past? ~Starting Over

This is not something you can tell him or show him over night. He has to see it for himself. If he loved and trust you before he ran into that person he probably still does. He just need time to take it all in. He can see you are a good person and changing for the better. Let him have this time to think about it and he will come back full circle when he is ready..

Dr. Love, My boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship, the only problem I have is that he is best friends with his ex-girlfriend. He says they were childhood friends and casually dated for a year in college before realizing they were better as friends. She has never disrespected me and is actually pretty nice… He talks to her all the time and have even invited her and her boyfriend to our house. Can ex’s really be platonic friends or am I being naive? ~Blind Lover

It is possible to be just friends however if you have a issue with it I would suggest talking to him and telling him how you feel. Out of respect he should limit or cut back on the time spent with the ex and show you who is really number one in his life. Communicate and talk to him though, that’s what’s going to help you.

Gossiper, I met a guy that has all the qualities I want in a husband, smart, funny, caring, respectful, no children, and treats me like a queen, however he isn’t attractive to me at all. He looks like a monster!!! Is my shallowness blocking a blessing right in front of my face?-Shallow Hal

Gossiper:

This is a tough one because I know how important it is to have something pleasing to the eye. However, you gave him chance enough to show you all his good qualities, you apparently like it, so now you have to make the decision which qualities are more important to you. I think it’s safe to say that we won’t get everything we want out of a significant other or life, but the next step is choosing what we’re willing to live with and without if we can’t get it all.

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