Ask The Love Doctor

Here’s the latest advice from Dr. Love in the form of more Q&A! Enjoy… And I hope you all find something helpful and insightful in this column.

Dr. Love,

I am an independent new millennium woman. I have a home, no children, educated, and talented. I am ready for a relationship but it seems men find me threatening or they’re not interested, why is that? – Lonely Princess

Ms. Lonely Princess,

Unfortunately success has its pitfalls. If you have all of those things, as well as no children, then you’re naturally going to have a certain type of “swag” in your attitude. Guys these days say they want an independent woman, but they only do when it’s to their advantage. Let’s not blame all men, because I too was single for many years, and could not find a good woman for many years.  The reality is you have to evaluate yourself and the things that you find important in a man. I do not believe someone should get in a relationship because they are “ready” getting in a relationship is not a plan, it is something that just happens. I have seen too many times that people force relationships and they are disastrous. You should never just settle for anyone and it happens all the time. Let love find you and just be ready to embrace it.

Dr. Love,

I will be moving to a new city in a month. Where are some places I can (besides clubs/bars) meet men? -Single and Ready to Mingle

Single and Ready to Mingle,

Well, as a woman, men are going to approach you. Some places you can look to meet people are churches, malls, bookstores, grocery stores, and work. It is common that single people in the workplace usually get together and explore the city together. The internet is another great way and there are a ton of different dating sites you can visit. You can go to Facebook, MySpace, and Twitter to name a few.

Dr. Love,

My mother doesn’t like my boyfriend and is constantly giving her advice and opinions about him. He says he is tired of the disrespect and shouldn’t have to deal with it. I love him and know he is the one for me. What should I do? – Stressed

Ms. Stressed,

Those issues usually only occur when a mother has control over their daughters. It is one thing for her to identify potential “red flags” about this new boyfriend, but you have to also be real with yourself about your mother too. Some mothers preach one thing and practice another, and some are too opinionated. If she is constantly disrespecting him then you need not bring him around her for awhile. In the perfect world your family will adore your spouse, but it could all be some jealousy too. Only you know your situation and have to be the judge of your mother’s comments.

Dr. Love,

I have been married for 8 months. I have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship and just found out I was pregnant. We are excited especially since this will be my husbands first child. Even though my husband and daughter have a great relationship, his parents do not acknowledge my daughter as their grandchild. I want him to say something to them now before the baby come and my daughter feels like an outcast. How can I get him to talk to his parents? – A Mother’s Love

Mother’s Love,

First off congratulations! Your husband is aware of what’s going on, but he probably thinks is not bothering you. I would talk to your husband and he will in return talk to his parents. When you talk about his parents in your daughter’s presence, refer to them as grandma and grandpa. If your daughter starts referring to them by that name then should eventually open up. If they are real stubborn there is nothing you can do and just pray in time they will mature. I would not address them and not put any emotion in to it. The more emotion you put into this the more it will become a bigger problem. I am only speaking from experience because I was in your daughter’s shoes a long time ago.

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