My Life As A Wife
Communication, Communication, Communication is a HUGE factor in a marriage. Like I have told you before, Rob and I work conflicting schedules so majority of our daily conversation takes place via text messages and emails. Here lately I have wanted to do something with him outside of our home. Every time I suggest something, it seems as if Rob would shut it down and discuss our finances. Anything mentioned was met with a financial lecture. Granted we are not millionaires and have a brand new home so of course money is a little tight AND we are both in school, but when will we have fun with one another?! I have to admit I have been a little bitter because I felt my hands were tied but Friday Rob and I have a WONDERFUL conversation and let everything on the line.
We both explained our side of what was going on. He explained that he would like to pay down a few bills with the “entertainment” money first and add a few things to our home. Of course I was all for this because I love our home and it is our castle. After he stated his side I agreed with him. We can always do things at a later time (if the good Lord says the same) and sacrifice a little now. Once he heard my story of just wanting to have fun with him, he realized how important that was as well. We fell in love because we had fun with one another and we can’t forget to incorporate that back into our daily lives. All work with no plays is not good at all, especially for a marriage. We push one another to be the best at work and school, but we have to have a work/play balance in life as well.
We realized that neither of us are mind readers and in order to continue on the same page we have to communicate. In this particular situation, we both shared valid points; however, it wasn’t until we communicated with each other that we were able to understand the other person’s point of view. Communication is the key that is going to get us through life’s situations and that door must always remain open. I am happy to say we are going on a date to the Maxwell concert 10/12 and are being creative on the “fun” time we spend with one another. For instance, having a picnic in our living room J. It’s fun and cost efficient which makes both of us happy. As I continue this journey on my life as a wife, I realize it is all a learning process and making sacrifices for the good of our relationship. As long as we are teachable, open to learning, selfless, respectful, and communicate about EVERYthing we will be fine. Journey back next month to see how we are doing. Don’t forget to show love to Gossiper’s “Single & The City” installment. Until next time…
Be Blessed
Miss Gossip
