Through A Man’s Eyes…
SENSITIVITY
How come men are not as sensitive as you want them to be? Well it’s mainly how we are raised. I can hear the words of my father now “Are you a man or mouse”. I’ll reply, “I’m a man” even though I wanted to say mouse sometimes; however, I knew that was not acceptable. As a child bumping my head and crying, or saying that I wasn’t able to do something was not tolerable in the presence my father. It’s like we as men have been programmed to be a certain way. Playing sports like football and basketball it’s inevitable you will get hurt at some point and what does the coach say “Get back up son” or “Shake it off”. Even as we grow up, the ridicule jumps from our father figures and coaches to our friends, who are the most insensitive. Guys can’t open up about a physical or emotional distress to ours friends with out being called ‘soft’ or ‘gay’. Consequently its make it seem like we’re not concerned about your feelings, its just hard for us to identify with them. Most women like to express their feelings especially to someone they care about, yet men internalize them. It’s not that we don’t understand your emotions; it’s just hard for us to understand women who don’t know how to deal with their emotions and have the tendency to magnify the situation. We realize that we need and should be there to console you, but I guess under some circumstances we would like that you would know that some things are trivial and it will work out. But maybe that’s how you should be and how we have to be. Our job is to love and protect you, and although we can have strange ways in how we show our love, we honestly do. Every relationship, the emotional aspects don’t have to always be the same but should balance out. Women actually have the ability to bring out a man’s sensitivity and men should be able to boost a woman’s mental toughness. Of course there are exceptions from both sides, but the important thing is that the scale isn’t leaning more one way. I would admit I didn’t always like my father’s “man or mouse” attitude but I’m thankful of the man that I’ve become. I literally feel like I could be dropped off in a jungle and make it out alive, and if I’m Tarzan and you’re my Jane we will make it out together. God Bless.
Inspirationally Yours,
Mr. I.N.S.P.I.R.E.
(Inspiring & Notably Spreading Positivity In Relationships Everywhere)
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Mr. INSPIRE & readers,
I would like to input that independent women can relate to this in the same essence when our mother’s (usually strong, single mothers) tell us “don’t rely on a man to take care of you!” or “get your own money and take care of yourself first.” So you made a definite and relative point. It’s just all about give and take when you get a significant other that we need to realize.
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You know this blog is so right and I always thought that men were heartless. But, I have learned through men like Mr. Inspire that men show there feelings through different ways the way they show they care introducing you to his mom just little stuff. This also goes the other way around cause I was rasied around boys and I couldnt cry when I hung out with them and I played all the sports and am still like that till this day it takes alot for me to show how I feel but, am still sensitive. This is a good blog to know that just cause he dont say it “Actions speak louder than words”
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I can’t really relate to this one well since I’ve always been the heartless one in most of my dealings. It actually took a really wonderful man to pull the “womanly” sensitive side out of ME. He’s caring and sweet, but he’s actually been able to step up and be the man so I don’t have to. Long story short, sometimes men aren’t the ones trying to figure out how to express themselves in a productive way it’s women, and sometimes it takes a good man to make a woman a better WOMAN…
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Nicole,
I feel by your response you can relate to this very well because you have showed the same actions that I’ve describe that most, not all, men have. I also mentioned their are EXCEPTIONS because I know not all women and men feel the same way. To add to, sometimes things happen in our lives to make us conform to act a certain way. I know I personaly didn’t/don’t always want to hide my emotions. Which perhaps could be said the same for you. That’s why it’s important that you have a healthy balance with the person you are with, and by the looks of it you seemed to have found that balance.