My Life As A Wife
Hello, hello, hello and thank you for tuning in! As most of you know I am a newly-wed. I became one with Robert June 6th, 2009 in a very intimate yet public (thanks to the internet) ceremony in Las Vegas. For the first installment I figured I’d introduce you to my hectic life as well as my husband and give you a little background on how we met. You know the little things you should know so as you journey with me, you will REALLY be able to journey with me.
Rob and I met online in March of 2008. This was my first time ever trying a dating site and I have to admit I was very skeptical. I signed up in January and exchanged numbers with 2 other guys that were absolute “NO’s” before meeting Rob. His conversation was very different and I really enjoyed talking to him. He was from Las Angeles, California relocating to Texas due to a job. In the few weeks we conversed over the phone I felt like I’d known him my whole life! We finally met face to face in April. He was everything I dreamed of and more and the dimples were the icing on the cake. He has a career, no children, respectful, got along GREAT with my family and friends, God-fearing, and was genuine. To sum it up, he was my soul mate. He doesn’t’ have any piercings or tattoos which I found rare. For the first time in my life I was in a healthy relationship and God was the center. Fast forward a bit. We put money down for the land/house in September 2008, closed on the house March of 2009, got married June of 2009 and that pretty much bring me to today.
Most marriage counselors say “Within the first year of marriage, don’t buy a house, go to school, or have a baby” it is to give us time for one another. Rob and I are doing 2 out of 3. We bought a brand new house and both enrolled in school all while working full time in Corporate America. Needless to say counselors make those suggestions for a reason. We now see the importance of their advice. Rob and I have conflicting work schedules. I generally work 9-5 Monday thru Friday and Rob works 1-10 Wednesday – Sunday. My off days are Saturday Sunday and his are Monday Tuesday. Outside of work and school we both involved in extracurricular activities with requires our time. Its more challenging then we’d expect because as newly-weds we want to be around each other ALL the time, but if we get 30 minutes of each other’s time a day we’re grateful!
I LOVE being a (new) wife. I am even learning the submissive role – hence the word learning. At the end of the day after I drive my hour and a half commute each way then study for nursing school, I just pray God grants me the patience needed to appreciate my loving husband every day. Now that you have been properly introduced to my life as a wife…journey with me each month to see how we’re doing and how I am adapting to my role. Feel free to share comments or suggestions. Be blessed.
Miss Gossip
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Your story is great and it does give hope. I feel that, just like your story, if a man is seeking a wife and feels he has met “the one”, the proposal will come rather quickly. There is not much to choose from, in regards to decent people in today’s world, so if you meet the right person, and are serious about wanting to be with that person, it does not take years to figure that out.
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I feel that marriage counseling, etc is good and should be taken advantage of, but, to me, the bottom line is—are you marrying the right person? If you are marrying the right person, then you can break all of those rules and still have a successful marriage. If you are marrying the wrong person, then you can date for years, follow all of the rules and still end up divorced.
So, my rule for my life is follow my heart, because there are no guarantees in life and with everything—you win some, you lose some. But you live and continue to thrive, no matter the setback.
I’m confident you made the right choice–without even knowing you. Because the test for me is, when you meet the man who is so different from the rest of society—-that’s how you know you have a keeper. And from the way you described him—you have a keeper.
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Thanks Cosmo and I too agree with you. I’d pretty much given up on finding a good man – I was content with being single because I was tired of settling. My thinking changed when I met Rob. And like you said you can have/do all the advice others give and fail or do none and succeed so that is where we are. We strongly believe this union was put together by God and it will last. I know every relationship will go through its tests and when I think about it – I’d rather have this as a test (conflicting schedules) then something worse.