What’s Your Self-Worth Worth?
What’s your self-worth worth to you? What does it mean to you? Is it something that’s interchangeable or optional depending on what the situation is? Sometimes, you look at a person’s situation and say “Hmph, I’d never let that happen to me, or I’d never go for that! I’m better than that!” But when the shoe is on your foot, you can’t stand up to what you previously said. It’s like your self-worth has changed now under certain circumstances. So I ask, is your self-worth worth anything at all?
With the recent and unfortunate Chris Brown and Rihanna domestic violence case, I read several quotes from celebrities and fans reaching out to each person involved. Some fans were angry at Chris; other fans were uplifting Rih Rih (a nickname given to her by fans/media); and some fans were even uplifting Chris. But what made me go “hmmmm” was the responses from the fans that said “it’s okay if you go back to him, I understand…” or the “I really hope this is a misunderstanding and you two can work it out.” Then a few days later, TMZ, an entertainment news medium, caught up with R&B singer Ashanti, and asked her “if in the same position as Rihanna, would she have called the police?” Her reply was “uhhhhhh, I don’t know!”And what I found to be almost hilariously controversial was a statement given by actor Terrence Howard, that he later retracted, “Chris is a great guy. He’ll be all right. And Rihanna knows he loves her.” Immediately I thought, with a puzzled look on my face, what’s love got to do with it? Now, I’m not going to nit-pick at this situation, I’ll leave that up to the masses. For the record, I hate that this situation has even happened to these young artists; however, it made me reflect and think… When faced with adversity should we alter what our self-worth is? Do we adjust what we would take or stand for? And I’m not just focusing on domestic abuse here either; I’m touching on all areas of relationships or even friendships. Verbal abuse, sexual abuse, unfair treatment, cheating, and/or physical abuse are just some of the things that could go on in relationships of any kind. Many people have set standards and morals for themselves, and by doing so, have created a worth for themselves; after doing that, you have a great responsibility to carry from that moment on. Along with any high responsibility creates tough decisions. When you see your friend go through relationship issues with her boyfriend and you give her your “I wouldn’t go for that” speech, and then next week when the tables have turned do you reevaluate what exactly you wouldn’t go for, or all of a sudden you can’t remember what the speech was even about anymore!? The point is, in any situation you are in don’t alter your self-worth. It’s not something that can be turned on or off; if it is, then your self-worth isn’t really worth much at all, now is it?
Be Blessed!
~Gossiper~
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This is a GREAT topic. I am a young woman and I find it is more common in younger relationships then older. Its really sad. I personally KNOW a lady the same age as me and she is with a guy that beats her. At first we would all jump in and come to her rescue but she would go BACK! We (even her mom) have now come to the conclusion she has to WANT better…it is very sad.
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This shouldn’t be a tough decision, but for many it is.
Why?
In a battle of emotions vs. physical, emotions always win. There are soul ties that often prevent rational thinking.
UNfortunately, there must be a repeat and repeat and repeat offense for many women to “get it”.