“I Love You; I Love You NOT!”
With Valentine’s Day vastly approaching I found myself pondering on what I could say about it. I don’t have a take on this day yet, it baffles me! …I have nothing mushy to say, in fact, you might receive this message in quite a bitter tone. Haha. I find that every year when V-Day comes into season by flooding the store aisles shortly after new year’s has wrapped, I get the same bad taste in my mouth since my sophomore year in college (when the single days kicked in). I casually walk into my local Walgreens trying to make my way to the cosmetics aisle and as I proceed to checkout, BAM! There I am blinded by red in the corner of my eye… I jerk my head to take a gander and there stands an aisle decked out with red heart shaped boxes filled with chocolate delicacies, life-sized bears garnished with a bow-tie, and crazy in love animals that sing and dance when you squeeze their paw. Oh, and not to mention the flowers!!! 
And just like clockwork I roll my eyes and snarl every time and then quickly avoid the aisle as if it’s the gateway to hell. But it doesn’t stop there! It’s the same scenario at Wal-Mart, Target, any convenience store and even Albertson’s!! It will be my retail therapy nightmare if I ever have to detour down those red candy coated-love garnished aisles. That’s right folks! I am “The Grinch Who Stole Valentine’s Day!” I don’t really know why I don’t like the day too much… I mean, deep down, I want to like it… But, every year I am consistently disappointed. This “holiday” isn’t for everybody, and it clearly ain’t for single people! 
I think my bitterness stems from the fact that I want to love and I want to be loved but most importantly, I want to be LOVE. So I am trying to focus on how to be “love” and by doing so I am going to be studying what love really means. 1 Corinthians 13:4. (I also plan on reading both of our “Feature Blogger of the Month” submissions as a refresher and reinforcement as well!) Because after all, I’m the type of girl who finds pleasure in saying “I’m heartless,” Kanye just made it seem THAT darn glamorous! But at the end of the day, it’s really no fun! (Did I just say that?!?! *GASP!*)
All in all, I must say: my train of thought on St. Valentine’s is unacceptable! So all my single ladies- don’t be bitter! (Or as I like to say with my friends- “don’t have your bitter beer face on.”) Embrace love, embrace the day; single or not, just soak it up! Hey, I’m going to go as far as saying- go buy yourself that great big giant life-sized bear with the red ribbon on its neck that you’ve always longed for and never got except unpleasantly from a college campus stalker… *ahem* Excuse me, anyhow, just remember really love-really live-really enjoy life!
Happy Valentine’s Day! (There I said it! …Ba-Hum-Bug!)
Oh, and always…Be Blessed!
~Gossiper~
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Gossiper – I love this blog. I have been in the SAME boat for many years. Like I say in my blog this is the first V-day in MANY years that I will have someone to spend it with. I used to HATE that day – especially in college – but learned to pamper myself. I am confused about what to do this time because I am so used to being alone and doing ME. Good attitude Gossiper, with an attitude like that, before you know it, your prince charming will be arriving on that white horse!!
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I love this blog as well Gossiper. I would like to share with you ladies that up until last year, I have had the worst Valentine’s Day for the past five or so odd years. It seemed that I was confiding in men, or should I say boys, to make me happy and fill a certain void on what is supposed to be one of the most special days of the year for love. I would always get my hopes up to only be let down by these boys. However, during my time for personal growth, I have learned that this day {just as other days} should not only be a time for lovers to appreciate each other, but for singles to appreciate self! This year I am not single for Valentines day, but to all my single ladies, I recommend that Feb. 14th be a day to indulge in SELF LOVE! As Gossiper mentioned, take yourself out to eat, by yourself flowers, and more importantly, make yourself feel good! Get with some of your girlfriends and enjoy the moment. Laugh at past lovers, and discuss ways to become successful with life, love and religion… God IS love as Miss Gossip stated. And remember… “BUT THEIR JUST A BOY” {laughing}
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Well Gossiper, Ya know, V-day os like my FAVE HOLIDAY OUT OF AAAALLLLLL THE HOLIDAYS. Becsuse I truly love everyone, I don’t hold grudges, I quickly forget and pretty good at forgeting. Now somehow every V-day I end up having a boo, but its never been someone who I loved or was in love with
, but nevertheless it really didnt kill my spirits, because i had a fmaily who I loved and loves me, friends who I love and loves me, and A SELF LOVE HONEY, THAT NO ONE CAN STEAL! 2 snaps with an attitude for that one lol But I do long for the day when V-day will be with the day that me and him are so deep in love, or the day when I can say MY HUSBAND BOUGHT me this is on V-day, or just….u get the pic. But as MIss Gossip, has done…just watch and pray and in the end everything will turn out JUST RIGHT!!!
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I hear all of you ladies. But you know, even for married women, and ladies with boyfriends, Valentine’s Day can still be sad and lonely. So I agree with Metamorphosis, do something nice for yourself; get the chocolates in the heart-shaped box, buy the flowers; and set them on your nightstand and enjoy them. One thing for sure, if you do it yourself, you’ll be sure to get what you want! LOL
God bless you all.